HOW TO GET YOURSELF TOGETHER

Hey, how’s it going?

I know that it’s been a while since I posted my last/first post but it’s not because I was running out of ideas, but because I was experiencing some weird event in my life so.. Anyway, let’s get into it, shall we?

Now that I have a lot of spare time (YAY HOLIDAY!) and apparently I don’t do much lately which is sucks so there it is, me and my thoughts, spinning around the room. It got me thinking of who I have become so far and I thought, yes I made some good progress over the year and let me tell you that the point of this blog is to share my thoughts, my positive thoughts and help others, so I have some good tips, why not share it?

Remember back then when you were in elementary school when you were so little being silly and goofy and so clumsy and got easily frightened so you did everything carefully and perfectly and when you made a mistake you were afraid if those nasty kids would laugh at you or your parents would be mad at you and all of the things above made you somehow got panicked too? (yeah bad memories) And when you grew up it’s still there and as you get older your problem gets bigger too, it’s hard to control it because you’ve never been able to shake it off.

Now that some people might say, “No, I don’t have those symptoms.” You are free to go. But I was just kidding, you may want to help your friend or your sister or anyone, I mean why are you here in the first place? But if you shared the same thing you might want to stay. And I want you to know that I don’t have any degree on psychology but things work so far for me, so.

I’ve got a list,

1.      You care too much

Let’s start from the root. People tend to be scared when it gets to something that they love they will lose it. What can I say, loving means vulnerable. I’m not saying that you need to stop loving, I mean love itself makes you, You. But CHILL.

2.      Learn how to control it

Learn how to control it before you let yourself love. You have to know why you love it in the first place, what you fight for and when you finally get it, just hold on to it so when there is someone stands against you, you have just the right reason to prove them that is worth the damn thing and you can save yourself a shame. And if you don’t know how, just try to sort things out from the very beginning if the thing worth the damn thing or not. And you may want to do it by yourself I mean you make a decision you are the one who takes the responsibility, so don’t let others ruin your thought, kid.

3.      It’s okay not to care so much

Since you care too much about (maybe) everything, would it be hurt if I say that a lot of people don’t care much about you or anything else besides themselves? I know, I was a bit shook when I learned this too. I can’t just say that everybody doesn’t care, in fact there are a lot of people out there who care actually, but most of them don’t because it’s, well human nature, to “put myself first before anyone else.”

So pick some weird instrument to play or a weird hobby or anything else that you want and make the best out of it without caring too much on what other people might think of you. If they in fact do judge you, saying that you suck, you might want to be proud about yourself a little (just a little) because you have come so far you got their attention. Because in order to be good at something, you have to be suck at something first. But if you listen to them and stop, you will be just nothing. So, YOU DO YOU.

4.      It’s okay to make mistake

Take it from me, I made a lot of mistake but this one is not really my story lol. When I was in my sophomore year there was this girl in my class that everyone had been talking about that she was pretty good with math and it happened in my junior year I sat next to her, believe me I didn’t plan to. While she was so good with math and all the calculating thing, I sucked at math and all the calculating thing.

Because I sat next to her of course I noticed one and two things and in that moment, believe me I was shook. When she was solving math problems it took her not only one try, not two but couple tries, it bored me to death when she erased her answers again and again, well it depended on how difficult the problem was though. And I said innocently to her, “wow! in my whole life I thought genius math like you only need one try to solve a problem.” And she answered lightly, “Haha that’s impossible we need to try and try until we get the right answer.” She answered pretty much like that I kinda forgot (sorry gun :D).

And so I realized why I was so afraid with math, it was because I was so afraid on making mistakes I didn’t even want to try at the first place. I was so afraid of the concept of failure it turned out I was doing just fine when I started to solve one problem and got it wrong. She helped me to get it right at the end. So the point is it’s okay to make mistake, everyone makes mistake, it’s clearly normal to make one, just don’t stop until you get it right. And above all there is always a second chance and make sure to make the best out of it.

5.      Believe in yourself

This is like the most important thing. You have to believe in yourself because if you don’t believe in yourself, who will? How people will buy it if you don't believe on what you sell. Try to appreciate yourself, have a little faith in you. It’s kinda hard to elaborate this point because its your task to figure you, your mind, and your heart out, no kidding I’m serious. I didn’t believe it until I proved it myself when I was in senior year and it works good until now on.

6.      Be confident

Now that you got everything in your hand, you just have to push yourself a little, it’s time to get outta your comfort zone! I mean get out of the comfort zone is scary as fuck for everyone but you know how to deal with fear by now, right? And believe me once you come out of it and get something you wanted, you will feel awesome about it. But don't be too much or you will look like a jerk. Everyone loves a confident person, not a jerk. Be confident and be humble, you can do it at the same time.

7.      Secret weapon

I pretty much have said about everything that I know on how to deal with shit, but at the end of the day it’s you, your problem and you are the one who knows how to solve it best, that’s when I come with the secret weapon, that fits with your every problems. I would tell mine, but it would be unuseful to you because it works best with my mind not anyone’s mind. Invent one and you will be just fine.

So that is all, I suppose. Don’t forget that life has its own surprise that you wouldn’t see it coming. If I forgot something and you want to add something to it, feel free to do so. And don’t forget to leave a comment or a question, it would make my day and I’d be happy to answer it. Have a nice day!