BEST FRIEND

Hey! How’s it going?
 

            I realize that it’s been a year since I posted my writing, it seems like I’m pretty consistent to keep posting once a year. Just kidding, I suck at blogs. But really the thought on writing crossed my mind a little you know, throughout the year but I just can’t—to sit, in front of my laptop and writing. You see, I’ve been a little bit occupied with school stuff and socializing and I have this thing going on, nothing to complain about, I mean FINALLY socializing! I like it really. So yeah, everybody the time of the year has arrived!! Holiday season!! Here I come, I mean you know, writing this.. Okay just let’s get into it, shall we?

According to Wikipedia the definition of best friend is:

Best friend, someone with whom one shares the strongest possible kind of friendship.

And also from Urban Dictionary:

Best Friends are very special people in your life. They are the first people you think about when you make plans. They are the first people you go to when you need someone to talk to. You will phone them up just to talk about nothing, or the most important things in your life. When you’re sad they will try their hardest to cheer you up. They give the best hugs in the world! They are the shoulder to cry on, because you know that they truly care about you. In most cases, they would take a bullet for you, because it would be too painful to watch you get hurt.

And I’m sure you have your own definition of best friend, so do I.

Anyway, I realized that I had no such a person like those criteria. I was not sure who should I call when I was down, I didn’t think I had someone in mind to go tell my bad days or even a good day. Let alone to share the strongest possible kind of friendship.

 As you can tell, my very own definition of best friend was a person who sticks with you through the ups and downs and been there with you for a very long time, that you spend most of the time with them, you grow up with them. It was uh, a little complex, but that sums up the point. As you can tell, I moved around when I was younger, my family wasn’t really settled for a reason, we moved to a city from another city, the culture confused me a bit—my friend would say “Culture Shock”—but I’m OK. And so you see, it doesn’t really fit with my definition of best friend, I was kind of struggling I mean it’s a little difficult to grow up when you’re moving around. I mean I got to see different places and stuff, understand people a bit due to varied culture but yeah guess everything has its own flaw.

So like everybody else in the elementary school, I had a best friend or.. so I thought. We lived in the same neighborhood, went to the same school, went home from school together almost everyday, spent the evening together and she was nice and stuff but it had to come to an end. In the 5^th grade I had to move and I tell you little kid, there was no such thing as social media, so we couldn’t really communicate also we were children, we didn’t really use phone back then #90s. And yeah, I know couple years later Facebook was found. I tried to reach up to her, but it seems like she had already forgotten me, so I was just like go play games on Facebook. Guess distance really has something to it.

Meanwhile, in my new school, really. Different. Circumstances. It felt like I scare people away you know I had different accent and stuff but I made some good friends over the year but no best friend I guess. In junior high school, in my 9^th grade I met four awesome kids, 3 girls and a boy. Everybody in the class already had their own squad, and there was him, jumped from one to another, wasn’t sure where he was standing and so we let him to hang with us a little. I was kidding, we welcome you anytime. And we still keep in touch every once in a while. I enjoyed the company; it felt like I had annoying brother and sisters. If you read this, I love you guys!

Senior high school, I would say this is really a difficult time. Though, I made some good friends. I spent my high school days in a different city. Everything was a little complicated I’m not sure how to put it into words. The good thing is I learned to pick myself up and do stuff by myself I would say learning to love myself a little. That’s a good thing, right?

I remember the time when I didn’t really have anyone to talk to, learned to be stronger, I learned that I didn’t really need a best friend—at least not in a very specific moment. I mean of course I envied those who had a best friend, but I learned not to rush it. A best friend will come when you least expect it. But in the meantime I think you should just learn to love yourself a little you know. It’s perfectly normal to have no best friend, they will come around. You see, I figured it out that what you share into the universe is what you gonna get from it. If you want happiness, share happiness. Sometimes it’s just that simple. Once—if I wasn’t mistaken, a friend of mine said this “sometimes it’s not that others don’t want to be friends with you, it’s just you, that don’t want to open up” good advice I see.

So from over the years, the idea of best friend kinda changes a little for me. I’m still not sure though the real definition of best friend, even though there’s tons of best friend quotes on the internet and books but still. It could be anything as long as you’re comfortable with it. Once I thought best friend didn’t even exist, but something little inside me tells me the contrary.

So I guess that’s it for today’s blog. I really enjoy writing it. Hope it helps you on seeing from other’s perspective. Cheers up!

Ps: I know it’s a little short, really short even, I just had the idea and rushed to my laptop and wrote it. I just want to keep it simple and easy to understand.